Polite People Choose Joy

How you do present yourself in stressful situations?

A key characteristic of a polite, well-mannered person is that they are typically found with a smile most of the time and project a positive attitude in virtually all circumstances.  

Feeling joyful is quite often, a choice, and studies have shown that polite people are typically joy-filled people. Those who focus more on the positive side of situations tend to surf through challenges with greater ease. Most polite people make a conscious choice to be happy and to smile more often than smirk or frown. 

When sad, frustrating or hurtful situations present themselves, polite and joy-filled people take time to process the appropriate feelings and then choose to step forward toward focusing on the bright side, for even the most dire circumstances present a positive consequence that begs to be discovered.

Jacquelyn Flesner is a Certified Etiquette Trainer and Founder of The Etiquette Network. Please visit our website for more information about our programs! www.TheEtiquetteNetwork.com 


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Tara Smith March 02, 2013 at 12:25 AM
So, what I am about to say may seem a little off-topic, but hang with me here, ok? So, I do a lot of walking because I do not have a car to get around, at times it deems to be VERY difficult, it fact, frustrating. However, sometimes I wouldn't have it any other way. Why do I write this? It has in fact, made me a lot more of a joyful, peaceful person. Of course, circumstances with everyone can be and are different and the definitions of joy can get somewhat intertwined. So, with that being said, I am only writing from my experiences. Jacquelyn, if I may quote you, having to walk everyone allows me to be able too, "process the appropriate feelings and then choose to step forward toward focusing on the bright side." It's made me a lot more of an open-minded, more perceptive person. Thank you Jacquelyn for sharing your insight!
John Linko March 02, 2013 at 12:38 AM
As someone who has worked with people in crisis (and those who help them) for a long time, I can say these things: 1. Keep an attitude that is consistent with maintaining strong, loving relationships with those who love you. There is lots out there about faith and trusting in God, but I also understand that a lot of people are turned off by that. I've found the following valuable: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desiderata 2. Compassion fatigue is real. Look it up. That commercial for the show "Criminal Minds" makes lots of sense. What you think, you become. 3. Grace and Joy are great things in abundance, unless you are trying to navigate Pittsburgh roadways during the early to mid afternoon. I have a nagging feeling that many of those people embracing joy are doing so while driving in the left lane, below the speed limit, and refusing to yield. I could go on, but maybe later in another forum. Now smile, dammit!
John Linko March 02, 2013 at 12:45 AM
Mike - was that second sentence written with tongue firmly planted in cheek? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ
Mike March 03, 2013 at 09:01 PM
Ah.... No.
Walt March 04, 2013 at 05:09 PM
Jacquelyn - I understood why you post on the Patch when I made the original comment. That was the reason I made the point that people shouldn't argue over the posting.


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